What Even Is Identity Work?
You’ve heard the phrase. You’ve saved the reels. Scribbled in journals.
Maybe whispered, “I just want to feel like me again.”
But identity work?
It still feels vague.
Like something other women “get”… while you’re stuck wondering:
Where the fuck do I start?
Or maybe this is all new.
You stumbled in here from a scroll spiral, and something inside whispered, stay…
Let’s begin there.
First… here’s the lie:
You were taught that “finding yourself” would look like vision boards and new routines.
That if you just read enough books, walked enough steps, or journaled enough words… you’d wake up one day finally feeling whole.
But identity isn’t something you find.
And it’s not something you fix.
Identity is embodiment.
It’s not about becoming someone new.
It’s about locating the version of you who existed before the world told you who to be.
Before you got so damn good at performing.
Before your body learned that playing small was safer.
Before softness became weakness, and survival became your story.
This work, the deep, sacred, slow work. is about bringing her home.
The version of you who feels grounded. Clear. Alive.
The one who doesn’t have to prove a thing to be powerful.
She pulses power with her every move.
So what is identity work?
It’s the moment you stop asking: “What do I need to change about myself?”
and start asking: “What parts of me have I been taught to hide?”
It’s the quiet rebellion of peeling off the labels.
The slow unlearning of who you thought you had to be and stepping into what your soul desires.
It’s nervous-system deep. Shadow-work messy. Mirror-shatteringly honest.
It’s not something you do once.
It’s a lifetime of choosing:
I want to feel like me. And I want to feel safe in that.
I saw something on Instagram recently, a woman saying she always felt lost… only to realize her inner compass had been bent.
She’d been following the wrong true north.
Only when she stopped, tuned in, and recalibrated did she find her true direction.
That’s identity work at its core.
When your identity begins to shift…
- You stop abandoning yourself in rooms where you don’t feel seen.
- You start noticing how your body actually feels, and you trust it.
- You set boundaries without needing to explain.
- You move slower… but more on purpose.
- You no longer chase becoming “better.” You become true.
What you dream of starts to feel like yours, and it starts to become easier. Like you’re a magnet pulling it in.
(That may sound impossible right now… but once you feel it, it’ll knock you for six.)
This is the part most women skip.
They try to change their life… without ever checking in with the version of themselves who’s living it.
They chase the next habit, the next plan, the next escape…
But never stop to ask:
“Is this even meant for me?”
Now more than ever, with the online space, it’s easy to absorb other women’s desires and take them on as your own.
Their goals. Their rhythms. Their lives.
But… ask yourself: Do you even want that?
Are you striving for freedom to travel the world, when your soul deeply craves a stay-at-home life and slow mornings?
Are you hustling to be the boss Corporate bitch, when what truly lights you up is midday Pilates and girls’ nights full of connection?
If you’re chasing someone else’s dream, no mindset hack in the world will make it feel like freedom.
So if you’re here?
You’re not too late. You’re not behind. You’re not broken.
You’re just recalibrating back to the woman you were before the burnout.
Before the roles. Before you got so good at being who they wanted.
It’s time to become:
The woman who dances care-free in the kitchen.
Who speaks without shrinking. Who rests without guilt.
Who feels soft, and safe, and fully in her body.
She’s not some future version.
She’s already in you.
If you can feel her rising…
Step into the version of you who feels like home:
Inside you’ll unlock
The Quantum Collapser – Nervous system rituals + Identity Overflow™ (the journal prompts that pull her forward now)
She Makes Money – A free, feminine-first masterclass from my mentor that shows you how to turn overflow into your new minimum.
This isn’t self-development.
It’s self-devotion.
Because identity work?
Isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about re-centering your inner compass to the woman you were always meant to be.
Welcome home.
Meg x
